There is an old biblical proverb that says that, “above all else guard your heart for out of it stem the issues of life!” I recalled this wisdom last week sometime when I was faced with a hectic life process that left me desperate for my heart to be in the right place. I interacted with families of my colleagues during a heated and heightened life threatening moment and the going ons made me realize things I thought would make sense to some of my sisters and others I share different spaces with. So what is it that I learnt?
- The heart is not just a human organ that vitalizes life. It also represents that part of humanity that is linked to emotions of love, care and concern. It is the latter aspect that I will dwell on. During my interaction I learnt that sometimes we choose to not live our feelings (which sometimes may be a good thing if these feelings could endanger others and yourself in many ways than one). Being a Type 8 – Challenger personality myself I know how possible it is to float through life pre-occupied with and in your headspace. I realized once again that many of us even at family level do not take time to explore emotions and this somehow results in us moving through life in a zombie-like manner as if the people we meet are robots and do not have emotions. So with that proverb aforementioned in mind, I did learn that it is good to be in touch with this heart space as well as the head space for we DO need reason. Being part of a family myself I realized it is important for me to facilitate for a process where we all should be alive to our different emotions to balance out our lives!
- A heart that is committed to togetherness and helping others is an essential element to life. I learnt this during my last week interaction with the families I worked with. In Africa the whole “Ubuntu” ideology is such a big deal and yes it should be! Togetherness says that we are all-together and determine each others worth and value because we cannot exist outside each other. For there to be peace at individual, family, community and even country levels, we all need to somehow identify where it is we fit into this HUGE life puzzle and do what we can to be each others keepers and of course this is looking beyond raising a generation of cry babies!
- Lastly I did learn that sometimes when we work with people we have to follow our heart when helping others. Sometimes when others are in a position of needing help, the dynamics can get so complicated, emotions get out of hand and this can be so discouraging. The negative energy just saps the strength and drive to go. However, it takes a heart that says, “I will do what I can and all else can go hang” kind of thing. This seemingly hardness may seem counterproductive and yet in the thick of things we all need to wear a certain attitude and face that will get the job done. This goes with adding that respect is an essential ingredient all the way as well.
The heart needs to be in the right place and make sense not just for an individual but also as a collective. During a moment when my team members were arrested last week and I had to work with their families and various dynamics that presented, I grew. In a lot of ways my life journey became richer and I look back at that painful yet richly blessing event and smile with joy at what came out of it. So yes, “…above all else guard your heart for out of it stem the issues of life!”